Proceed With Caution

Last night I watched The Pregnancy Pact on Lifetime.We all remember that story, right? A group of girls made a pact to get pregnant at the same time, in order to raise their babies together.I thought the movie was good.But it had me tripping a tad because who in the world would do some dumb shit like that?!?!Anyone?Bueller?Don't worry, I'll wait for someone to give me a reasonable response.What added to my tripping out is a friend of mine is dating a girl, who is the same age as these girls in the movie, and she just had a baby.When he told me that, my only reply was to PROCEED WITH CAUTION.

I'm not against women becoming mothers.I mean, as much as I shout about me not wanting kids, I secretly do want kids.But that's not the point.I am a twenty two year old guy still trying to find my way through life.So, getting into a long-term relationship now isn't even on my radar.But dealing with a female with kids already, I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to pass on that.Why? Because I can barely keep my head above water with the responsibilities I have now.I can barely take care of myself.What do I look like taking care of myself,trying to wine and dine a female, and then go play male figure in some kid's life who I don't really know.Now, let me be fair and say, most women with children just won't let any random man meet their child.But from what I've seen from the people around me, that's changing rapidly.

My mom is a single mother and she would date a man for a long ass time before he ever got a chance to meet me.But my mom's an old-school kind of woman.These girls out here today, are just letting any Tom, Dick, or Harry meet their children.I don't think they do it because they're really into the guy.Sometimes, I think new- age women (that's what I'll call them.) bring a guy around their child early on to see if the guy can handle a serious relationship and a built in family all at once.I almost got caught in some non-sense like that.but I dipped as soon as she started talking that "What if.." crap.

Call me cold hearted, or what have you.I like to think I have standards.I am not going to be messing with a girl with children already because that's not my thing.I'm not ready to play daddy.I'm not ready to help change diapers.Even though I can.I worked in a day care center when I was fifteen.Yes, I know, hard to believe.Being there, taught me that once you have a child so young, love and all it's many splendors, are put on the back burner.I'm an only child and I'm not too good with sharing.Basically, if we're going to see where a relationship can go, we don't need all the extra baggage.Even though,some are going to be upset that I called kids baggage.It is what it is.

Kids are baggage because along with kids comes, baby daddy drama.In most of the cases I've seen.Even after a man and woman have a child and break up, they're still hitting the sheets. Nine times out of ten that's the case.I'm not about to be in a relationship with you and you still fucking your baby's daddy.Hell to the naw.Not here.You can take that shit to another sucka.Fellas, can you imagine, you really into this girl and her baby's father comes around.He's cool, but he's always got some smug ass grin on his face.You wonder why and then realize he's still getting what you thought was yours.who's going to deal with that?Certainly, not I.My boy says, it doesn't bother him that his girl has a child. That's cool.For him.In my eyes, under twenty-five, she better not have kids.Period.I couldn't deal with that.But if you choose to, do so with caution because there will always be baby daddy dram lurking around every corner.